How do you start a sensitive conversation with your partner? (2023)

How do you talk to your partner about sensitive topics?

Why do I struggle to communicate with my partner?

Lack of awareness

Oftentimes we don't really even know how we are feeling and what we are needing in our relationships. It's so much easier to focus on our partner's behavior and point the finger at them than it is to look inward and really pay attention to our own feelings and needs.

According to Douglas Stone in his book Difficult Conversations: How To Discuss What Matters Most, difficult conversations are actually three different conversations in one: A “What Happened?” conversation, A “Feelings” conversation, and. An “Identity” conversation.

"I am trying to see things from your perspective. Help me understand how you think about . . ..” “I am committed to having this conversation until we can come up with a solution that works for both of us. I would like to start by really trying to understand your concerns.”

Sensibility in communication is using logic and reason to guide our interactions. It's about using facts, seeking a rational approach to understanding the situation, and not letting emotions cloud judgment or permeate our communication.

Intimacy refers to a level of closeness where you feel validated and safe. In relationships, four types of intimacy are key: emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual.

Sending a random, thoughtful flirtext is a great way to show him how much you care. Randomly text, “I love you” or “I'm crazy about you.” It's simple, it's quick, and it will make him smile. Send a recent sports fact about his favorite player like, “Ole Chipper just hit his 400th home run last night, eh?”

What topic can I discuss with my boyfriend?

Make a plan. Try not to spring the conversation on your partner, because they could be thrown off if they're not expecting it. Instead, you could tell them that you'd like to talk about your sexual intimacy and ways to make it better for both of you, and suggest a time, such as “tomorrow after work”.

Try initiating an intimate conversation with an open-ended question. Examples of such questions are: “What kinds of changes can we make together in the coming year to make it our best year ever?,” “What do you feel is going well for you these days?,” and “What do you feel is not going so well?”